Most people I see in my practice have contemplated change for a long time; contemplation is an integral part of the process, but more steps are required in order to be successful.
Contemplation helps individuals identify contrast, what they like or don’t like, the pros and cons of changing, their level of conviction, and a gathering of knowledge. For example, at this point in the process the client may call to book an appointment to ‘quit smoking’. The first question I will ask them is ‘do you really want to quit smoking?’ it’s a valid question. If they aren’t sure or they tell me they know it’s unhealthy, but they really enjoy their morning cigarette with a cup of coffee, or they are trying to quit for someone else I know they are only contemplating change. Change requires a strong conviction, the ability to take action, goal setting, and sometimes having a support system in place to stay on task.
The power to manifest change lies within the persons own mind, they are the only ones in control of their experience. As a hypnotherapist I have no power over other people’s minds I simply act as a guide that assists the individual to identify goals and focus their intent on what they really want using various techniques. If the individual’s subconscious is in agreement with the words or visualization the change(s) occur rapidly. The basis is a positive mental attitude; do they believe they have the power within to change.
For some hypnosis is not as beneficial because they are looking for an external solution to an internal thought process. Individuals who have expectations that the hypnotherapist can fix them or their problem are giving away their own power and not being accountable. These individuals will likely tell others “well that didn’t work for me”. They are correct in that it absolutely ‘won’t work’ because that is what they believe, failure to succeed is already firmly established within their own minds.
Habits and beliefs (convictions) are developed over time with repetitive thoughts, spoken words, emotions, actions. Most people have no conscious awareness of their own thought(s) or their spoken word(s) that work against them or are preventing them from moving forward. In hypnotherapy we refer to it as ‘organic language’, using the power of the word against ourselves and most do this unconsciously. Examples of organic language are: ‘this job is killing me’, ‘my nerves are shot’, ‘they treat me like a second class citizen’, ‘life’s too short’, and ‘I am losing my mind’.
Another example of using the power of the word against the self is when individuals say in their mind or out loud ‘I am fat’ when they look in a mirror. The thought of ‘being overweight’ is where their conviction and focus lies. Think of the mind as a computer and thoughts are the way it’s programmed. If the focused thought process is ‘I am fat’ that is what is being uploaded in to the mind. If thoughts or spoken words are repeated the belief intensifies, if an emotional component is added such as self loathing or sadness the conviction becomes even stronger. The subconscious cannot distinguish between reality and illusion, it will help create whatever the focused intent is whether negative or positive.
The recipe for success is really dependant on having an awareness of thoughts/visualizations, intention, attitude and a willingness to take action even if that action is small.